Posted 7 years ago
SpiritBear
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I wrote this a year and 3 days ago, having only last night re-encountered it. I like to share stories. I will be posting many more in the future.
Last year I was hiking along a lonely, little traveled stretch of dunes on a depressed day where I had for awhile felt little but apathy and inner negativity toward everything. Suddenly I came along two still-born fawns recently dead with flies buzzing around the drying slime coating them and what must have been the placenta.
I stared for a few moments, still feeling nothing, but something in me lead me to take my pack off my back and grab the trowel out. In the sand with thick roots crossing through it from the trees, I dug a trench a couple feet deep and a foot and a half long, and I built up a cross after laying both dead deer in the hole.
The cross was made of branches and bound with flexible, thin branches and the roots of grasses and trees. From there I made a wreath of ever-green and put in it some small purple flowers popping up on the dunehead I was on. I did a bit more, looked at my work, and decided it was fitting for them.
Albeit I felt no different emotionally, I felt like something in me had changed a bit from what I had been. Soon after I began to feel human again and God began to heal me now that I had let something in me go-- perhaps the anger, perhaps the apathy, perhaps the selfishness that depression really can be.
I returned Christmas day, which was quite depressing for me as it has been since Steve died back in 2011. I have Major Depressive Disorder. It really destroys you and relationships with others. It keeps you down, but on that day I went up to the dune to see if the grave could still be found, if hikers didn't destroy it. At first I thought it was gone, as I couldn't locate it on the crest. But I hadn't gone far enough. Suddenly I found it and found hope again in God and life, as if these sticks bound by roots were somehow my hope for everything. I don't know how or why, it just was the symbol for it. That and those two fawns.
I left after fixing it up and returned today, nearly not locating it again but seeing it as the photos show. It's in disrepair, but it survived the winter and thus my hope still lives on.
The issue is, two sticks bound by roots above the grave of two deer cannot be my hope. The symbols we use often replace the very things they stand for, and many never realise this. The real hope is that God has persevered and will continue to persevere in me and my life, even when I feel dead or despair inside.
Photo one: The grave after a year and a half (taken last summer).
Photo two: View from grave.
Photo three: Trail.
Thanks for sharing your pics, your story, and your feelings. Take care as it takes a mighty Big heart to do this for these little still-born fawns. Also hold your head up for this!!
Spirit ,I love this story and also I suffer from major depression.
There is nothing like losing a dog who is you best friend. I believe God sends these special Dogs to people or a reason. I have always had two dogs at at time during my whole life.One of these was special like your Steve.My daughter named her Honey and she was just incredible! unconditional Love,forgiveness and loyalty like no human could ever provide.The day I lost her was an emotional experience that I have never had before.( and I have lost a lot of friends.)
The only way I can equate this kind of Love is the Love God has for us.
Continue to write my friend as I really enjoy it.
Words can never fully say what we want them to say, for they fumble, stammer, and break the best porcelain. The best one can hope for is to find along the way someone to share the path, content to walk in silence, for the heart communes best when it does not try to speak.
I think this was Margret Wells who said this.
Thank you all for your comments.
Valentino, if you're ever in Muskegon.
AntiqueRose, I couldn't just leave them there.
Gruff, my dog Rhoda's middle name is Honey.
A good quote.
I do have a follow-up story to this. It is a lot longer, though, and is written in third-person omniscient with my speaking to God in italics (and we cannot post italics here). Same location, different time, heavy emotion. Not sure I'll ever post it here, though.
I would love to hear it spirit
I suppose it would be a good follow-up for this piece. It is interesting for me to go back and re-read these things, for it shows me what I was on a particular day. I never really titled this one. I just call it Christmas 2015.
He set out to walking on the snowless but cold day, taking a main road he didn’t want to because the air was so unclean, wearing a dark hoodie to not be noticed.
God, I’m just… I’m just both feeling dead and wanting to cry. I know it’s a sign of living, a sign that I feel something… and I thank You for that, but…. I don’t want to feel like this, God. I want to feel alright. I want to no longer hate myself. I want to feel alive. I don’t want to be selfish, but I want to not be what I am. I just want to be happy, but happy never lasts.
It doesn’t for so many people, maybe even you.
What is real happiness? It seems to just be something so quickly forgotten.
Today’s the day the World celebrates Your birthday, Jesus. People are laughing, singing, dancing, making merry like they should in celebration. People are with their families, with friends, playing games and enjoying each other and the smiles on the faces of everyone around them. But not here.
So many homes, so many drives overflowing with cars as people host get-togethers to have joyous celebration.
God, why does home feel so cold? I look at the warm glows emanating from a hundred windows, but our own windows give off a harsh light or nothing at all. The house never feels warm and the air seems oppressive. Yet it’s a Christian home….
He lives with his mom in a small house they were able to get after most of his life in debt and moving-- the first house they had bought since he was born, as they had lost that one when he was 5. The earthy-toned home’s exterior looks cute and full of life with a beautiful garden and pond out front, birds singing and feeding from the feeders, Jack Pines towering up off to the side and the Scotch Pine nearest the house decked out for the holidays-- and the bushes nearest full of bright red ribbons. And even with fishtanks and reptiles, cats and dogs, decorations and painted rooms, the home was still in want of something.
I successfully made her Christmas go well, so thank you, God. I’m glad she liked it, and I’m glad the party we threw went well for the others a few days ago.
The party was with his sister’s ex-husband, who was dragged there by his current wife, because she came with the children from their former marriages to spread a little joy during a small potluck. Amusingly, they left their gifts and her purse there when they left, thus returning to claim them.
I want to give up. I want attention from someone who will actually love me, who will give all I give because I give all I can.
And what went wrong the years before I was born. Why did my sister leave when I was born? Why did father beat me, want me gone? Why did You lead me to isolation from a World gone wrong, so that I could not function in it when I tried to return? Why did you take all my pets away so young? Why did you take Steve away?
Steve’s death is where his life branched out in 2011. He had been happy with that dog. But as soon as he died, everything came crashing down-- indeed it did as it set off Major Depressive Disorder, Intermittent Explosive Disorder, worsened Anxiety, etc. Nothing went right, and two years went by before any help was given to he who hid it all-- and by then the help was too late and, as he wrote once, “They don’t know that their ‘help’ actually hurts.”
He abandoned his own friends-- the ones he had left since the others had left-- who themselves were not very real, as he one day discovered-- the day his dog died, actually. But he tried, a few years later, to make friends and thus be the normal kid he always wanted to be. But it never worked out.
I feel abandoned, God. I hate to admit it, but it’s true. Joe had been such a good friend, but he claims to the world that all of his friends were fake and never cared. But I tried, God. I did all I could. but nothing is ever enough? And Todd… Where is he? Why can’t I find him..? Am I not enough?
And I help find Jon a companion, and he forgets me? I try to make friends, but they ignore me? My “brother” abandons me a few weeks before Christmas, again, and acts as if all we’ve been was nothing?
All others I try to befriend just… go away?
He left the road and began climbing a dune, the sand cascading down behind him till he reached the knee-high grasses that hold it all in place even when wind tries to whip it away. The dune swelled with its own life, young and old pines and other evergreens, leafless grey-brown trees reaching out for a soft blue sky with wisps of white painted in by some master artist, tracks of deer being the only other prints, and grasses enrobing the dune in a tan-yellow as they wave dormant in a cold December wind.
God, I hurt. What happened to a season of joy? Why are millions of people around the World hurting in a season supposedly of joy? Where is the peace you were supposed to bring? Why can’t I feel hope?
If the gift you gave was to save mankind, why is it not working? You’re able to do anything, but…. I feel like You’re doing nothing because, frankly, everything is shit regardless of how fucking hard I try. Nothing is ever enough for others, nor is anything going to be enough for me until everything is better. Where are You? I try to listen to You, so why aren’t You listening to me? We cry out to You and we’re saved, right? Then why are we crying like the children of Yours that we are, and You are not taking care of us?
Your children die. Do You even care anymore? I try, God, but I’m always feeling ready to give up because I’m one of the dead too. My spirit may be alive but my body is in decay. There is too much pain, mine and that of others. There is little left, yet You wouldn’t even let me die when I tried. What are You? How can You want us to think You care?
His whole reason for coming up here was for a cross. He needed the walk, didn’t know where to go, and ended up drawn to the cross-- the cross he made earlier that year for two dead fauns, stillborns, he had found whilst hiking.
He left his prayer he’d been praying throughout the walk, and he asked that God had kept the cross intact; and he went about searching for it, losing hope as he thought he had passed the area, until finally there it sat up ahead-- in some disrepair, tilting at an angle from natural creep, the arm having twisted to the side as the knots of root and soft twig had loosened. But, still, it was intact-- and the symbolic wreath of evergreen still lay in it, dead-brown, but there.
He looked out at the dune across the road dividing the area well down below. The neighbouring dune soared higher, waves of yellow grasses blowing in the wind, paths from man and beast ringing around it like garland on a tree-- and trees of green and trees leafless all reaching up, clawing at the sky, spreading wide their branches to celebrate their Creator.
I asked to be able to be used by You for good of others and for You. I asked to be taken down the broken road to know what others feel, but I had also asked that you protect me so I’d not be struck down on it too and have to wait till some thing comes to rescue me, if anything would ever come. I wanted You to salvage others through me. But now I need salvaged.
Is this why I’m so broken? Because I asked to know it? Is this all for me to learn from, that one day I’d heal and be able to utilize it for others’ eternal benefit or benefit to move them forward in life and out of their own pain? I asked to know exactly how it all feels, but to also be left intact. Is it that it is not possible to be alright when one knows exactly how it feels? Even for a moment, there is no alright, so that I will continually despair like this?
God, is this what it all is? How does anyone survive? Oh God, this World is so destroyed! I need someone to come. I’ve been here too long. I know what it’s like. Where is he who will save me from myself and help me up when I cannot?
Seemingly without thought, he turned around, knelt, and moved sand to find more stringy roots to repair that which his hands had created months earlier, that which God had let stand…. That which most people will never know, just like they know not that he built one right up here, in a less-hiked dune separating the road from the channel.
And he set about repairing the cross.
But no one will come, God. They all walk by, maybe stopping just to look and point and somehow benefit themselves for themselves in some unholy way. There is no good Samaritan anymore, for they were all struck down, weren’t they? Your World is in despair because it cut down every good thing, every thing of eternal benefit. We killed Your Son who we celebrate today.
We killed Him-- I killed Him. We all killed Him!
Did He feel like this too, God? Did He despair over His people, the people He came to save? How will anyone choose Him anymore? Anyone who tries is verbally slaughtered, sometimes physically slaughtered, because of Him.
I tried, God. Heck, I still try-- even now as I talk to You and fix up what You have made last. And these pieces of wood and root feel like my only hope.
Will You make it last the winter when it does snow? Will this cross, this common symbol now secretly overlooking a thousand people each day, somehow be used for others or for me? Does anyone even reach this far? Am I the only one who will see it? Is this really for all, or were those two stillborn fawns for me, so I’d build this, so there would be some hope in their own death? A reminder of you? Of innocence?
I don’t know…. What are You trying to make me know from all this? I’m hurt, confused, feeling alone even though You must be there…. God, what….
And then he remembered what he was like when he built the simple cross:
He was unfeeling, unresponsive to emotion from himself or others. Even as he built it for the two dead fawns he buried in the sand, a grave dug a few feet down to keep them from scavengers, and digging without a real shovel… he had felt nothing, but was doing it out of what he thought was a sense of duty-- but could he have been wrong?
Still, he built that cross, and then he felt something; yet, he rarely remembered it save for when he passed the dunes every couple of weeks, wondering if it stayed intact or if hikers took it out.
But in the end, there it stands. And, so, his hope also stands. His hope is still Christ, even in a world of his own lonely despair-- all in a world he cannot understand and misinterprets every day and refuses to even be a part of anymore.
And tears came to his eyes.
God, why do You do this? You lead me to doubt, lead me to despair, only to finally then answer me? I don’t know what You’re doing or when You’ll finally make me alright, but I guess You are keeping Your promises….
I know You never promised peace for us all in life-- everyone takes that Peace and Prosperity verse out of its real context. So how will Jesus bring us all peace?
I know You answer those who answer to You, but can You please just answer before we despair?
Why must we despair? Is it all to learn? Is it different to each of us? What are You doing with all this? Please reveal Your plans, God, because I just… I can’t…. I don’t know.
I need more than this to hold onto. I’m weak. You give me the strength, but I feel like it’s hardly enough.
Please, God…. What are You doing with all this?
And he got up, looked down at his work before making a final adjustment for aesthetic purposes, and continued walking under the waning light.?
I will never forget the words of one of the humblest priest I have ever met.
He said to me one day "Greg don't you know how much God loves you.
A light turned on for me that day and has been forgotten but never not felt or been extinguished. I pray spirit that you would see that same light and feel that same love that I did that day
? Psalm 43 ?
New American Standard Bible
Prayer for Deliverance.
1Vindicate me, O God, and plead my case against an ungodly nation;
O deliver me from the deceitful and unjust man!
2For You are the God of my strength; why have You rejected me?
Why do I go mourning because of the oppression of the enemy?
3O send out Your light and Your truth, let them lead me;
Let them bring me to Your holy hill
And to Your dwelling places.
4Then I will go to the altar of God,
To God my exceeding joy;
And upon the lyre I shall praise You, O God, my God.
5Why are you in despair, O my soul?
And why are you disturbed within me?
Hope in God, for I shall again praise Him,
The help of my countenance and my God.
-Pray this my friend and ill be praying for you too.
ive been thru dark valleys,been persecuted by enemies to the point of giving up everything, given to drunken stupor to numb it all but one thing i know and has kept me is that the steadfastness n faithfulness of God never dies. Take it as a journey of testing we all must go through, all will indeed be well.
Spirit,
Your writing is art and beautiful and I want to thank you for it.
Some people come into this world (through no fault of their own) into extremely challenging environments.Or have one thing after another crumbling all around them.Most people live the lives of the ("Working Class Hero") and then die a week after their retirement party at the age of 70.
It's really sad to see and feel especially when you are a loving sensitive person who cares and loves people.My intuition tells me you feel all of their pain as well as your own.That is a heavy weight my friend.I accept this and give it over to God......then crash bam....have to do it all over again and again and again.
What I am trying to say is,this is your life purpose . Embrace ...And use these gifts
I love this verse that I believe Paul said............
If I have the gift of prophecy and can know all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have absolute faith so as to move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.
It's very touching to see that people still do hope in God. I see the world and always see it pushing God away, even inside of Churches. I've pushed Him away many times in my life.
Thank you all for your caring.
Forgot to say thanks to Fleafimder
Great stuff.
that's what we have to do is be different and hold each other up as an example to those people who push against God.If you could just change One person it would be worth it.Trust me Fall short everyday.
In my belief there is no punishment.In studying the afterlife for years it seems during your life review as they call it.You have to feel the pain inflicted by your actions through the eyes of the victim.What most people say is that you are not judged but made to understand in a incredibly loving way.
Just my 2!cents